Divorce is an overwhelming situation for all involved. As if the actual marriage breakup isn’t enough, there are typically children to worry about, not to mention the division of every asset and debt you never even knew you had.
Your two main options are to either use a divorce mediator or a divorce lawyer. If you are in a situation where one or both parties is having a hard time representing themselves or speaking up for their needs (such as a marriage breakup where there is a concern that one party is hiding assets), your only choice may be a divorce attorney. One choice which falls in between these two methods is collaborative law, in which each party is represented by a divorce lawyer, but the two divorce attorneys work together to come to a workable solution, rather than leaving it in the hands of the court.
However, if you would like to avoid divorce court as well as expensive divorce attorney fees, a divorce mediator may be for you. If you feel that your marriage breakup can be handled relatively amicably, this is a great option that will save you endless amounts of time and money. Choosing a divorce mediator means having someone who is neutral help you to negotiate the details of your divorce, present options, and help with you and your future ex-spouse come to an agreement that meets both of your needs. They can help to advise you in all legal matters involved with divorce proceedings as well as prepare a separation agreement and file divorce papers.
In addition, many divorce mediators are not only trained in the legal aspects of divorce proceedings, but are trained therapists as well. This means that they are fully aware of how to best handle the emotional stress that can come along with these difficult times, and will do their best to work with all parties in the most positive and productive way possible. This is especially important if you have children, as divorce mediators work to be sure that everyone’s needs are met and that everyone is able to move on with their lives as quickly and easily as possible.
If you think that your divorce can be handled through a divorce mediator, there is no doubt that it can be infinitely healthier and less expensive to avoid divorce court and save what dignity is left of your relationship.